Rid Hurt and Self Love Spell

We have all been there; That break up.  That friend who keeps asking for just a little too much and finally has to go, that Significant other that you've been with for a couple years and although it isn't bad, it just isn't all that great.   Letting go, even when it's the right choice, maybe especially when it's the right choice, is the hardest and strongest thing we do in our adult lives. I wrote this spell to help support myself in my decision to walk away and/or let go. I actually wrote this many years ago but it has been true and fast.

The spell can be as complicated as you wish or as simple. This spell was aligned to the elements. Each element represents something in me, a portion of my thought process. I wrote the spell to speak to each one of these different elements in myself and to remind myself that there was a reason I walked away and that there was a reason I got into the position to begin with.
 
This flame for the passing pain and the passion for the possible
Water flows and emotions grow for love of self and respect of my soul.
Earth hold me stable assure me that I am able to see the past clearly and grasp my own mortality.
With this Breath I released all oneself enemies
I lift my mind above all else and regain my love of self.
 
I start in the South with fire. Fire is passion and it is generally what is hurting the most. From the fire element in me I want to look forward to all the things that are possible now that the problem has been removed. Not specific things but just the possibilities of more pleasant days now that I am moving on. I generally light a candle for the South.  I like a 20-minute Birthday candle, whatever color matches my mood.  if I'm going full out ritual, I will get out all the candles and do a nice bathroom thing for my spa moment.

Water is emotion and so I looked to myself for the love that I deserve.  Basically, give myself a warm hug from the person who loves me most in the world, me.  If I'm going full out I will draw myself a nice warm bath and add a little moonwater. Most of the time, I just drink 8 ounces of water which my body needs anyways.

Earth element is my stability my roots. From this I ask exactly that, root me and more than anything remind me why I walked away. There is a reason I'm putting myself in this much pain and just because I'm having second thoughts right at this moment does not mean that it is the good choice. If I'm doing full out ritual I will add herbs to my back, lavender maybe some eucalyptus. Rose petals. If I'm in five-minute mode I normally will light my candle outside and stand with my feet on the earth.  Spread some rose petals around the base of the candle and with some Rose Quartz.

Then finally air. Air for me is that self-Babble in your brain. Sometimes it's great!  It does a lot of great work for me and is mostly the reason I get paid. At a time like this it's a bunch of self-doubt and me telling myself things that might or might not be true, but this is just not the moment to be going over self-analysis. For this one if I do full out ceremony I will put on Shalimar.  Shalimar is a name brand perfume that my mother wore.  To me it's the smell of love. For you maybe add a nice oil essence to your bath or even just breathe deeply several times.

I slowly turned to each corner, and I say the words really feeling them and thinking them and going over these meanings in my mind. I do this for as long as the candle burns or as I said about 15-20 minutes. If I'm doing full ceremony in the bathtub. I will meditate for 15 or 20 minutes, then either get out or turn on my tablet and find something fun to watch why I soak and enjoy my bath.
 
Rising tide floats all boats.
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